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September 19, 2025 | Leave a Comment

Just sad (not angry, snarky, argumentative, fearful, etc.)

It was a January in St. Louis, cold and icy, and our friend Al had lost one of his leather gloves. He exploded into the coffee room, using words a gentleman and a Christian don’t typically use in public, and we all stared, gape mouthed. 

We watched him storm some more, at the sink, across from the mailboxes, sitting down opposite me. Not pushing my chair away from him was an act of will.

“What’s wrong, Al?” someone finally asked softly.

He froze for just a moment and then hung his head. “I got some bad news,” he sighed. An old friend died that morning.

Bad news does strange things to us sometimes.

Last week was full of bad news for our community, our state, and our country. It felt like uncertainty. It felt like fear.

Uncertainty and fear are no friends of ours. They make us feel weak and helpless, so you know what we do with them? We make them into anger, exploding and storming and taking it out on whoever’s close at hand.

Years ago, Kathleen Norris wrote about anger, and I’ve carried her wisdom with me ever since. She wrote of God’s anger, “It is truly and more wholeheartedly righteous than human anger could ever be.” God gets angry about injustice or evil or pain.

Human anger is different. We get angry about a whole lot more, and it’s rarely so pure.

Norris went on, “Now that I appreciate God’s anger more, I find that I trust my own much less. I am increasingly aware of its inconsistencies, its tendency to serve primarily as a mask for my fears” (Amazing Grace: A Vocabulary of Faith [New York: Riverhead, 1998],  126). 

You see, anger is an easy make for all that unpleasant fear and sadness, uncertainty and grief. Anger feels a little closer to control when the world around us is going haywire.

Last week, when the news broke that our Safeway grocery store would be closing, a lot of us got mad. We got mad at the Albertsons Corporation first. That’s fair. They’re the ones actually closing the store. But then we got mad at the City Council, as if they had any control over what a company worth $28 billion does with one of its stores. I got pretty annoyed at all the people calling our community a “ghost town.”

Then, we watched students get shot again in Evergreen and Charlie Kirk die in Utah. More anger. One kid, one man, one gun each, with motives still unclear. We started taking it out on each other. What was that about anger feeling like control? It accomplished nothing.

What if we just let sadness be sadness?  What if we had a good cry or went for a walk or just stayed home and did nothing for a while until the sadness worked itself out? What if we listened closely to the people with lots of different ideas than our own, and just let those ideas be different rather than dangerous? What if we remember that God is in control anyway, so–by faith and hope–our lives and community will heal?

Kathleen Norris, quoting the monk Evagrius, wrote, “The remedy for all anger is prayer.”

You know how, sometimes, the answer is so simple that it’s hard to hear?  Yeah, that would be now. Pray. And pray more, and pray some more. Listen, talk, and pray even more.

I get it. There’s work to be done finding a new business for our empty store front, addressing violence in the schools (again), and building relationships with people who disagree with us politically. Yes, there’s work to be done, but it can’t be done while we’re angry. And it’s going to get done a whole lot better and faithfully if we start the work with prayer.

I went to Safeway yesterday for the first time since the announcement of its closure next month. Clearances tags on everything. Shelves beginning to empty. No more deli. A lot of good people about to lose their jobs. I didn’t cry in line. I figured the checkers had enough to worry about without having to console me. I cried in the car. I prayed for the employees on the way home.

Even Jesus wept (John 11:35). We can too.

Anger, Hope, Prayer, Sadness, Uncategorized Tagged: anger, Kathleen Norris, sadness, Safeway


March 15, 2025 | Leave a Comment

Work and (sometimes) jobs in the Kingdom of God

It was May 1991. I had graduated from college but still making application to grad school. I had a boyfriend who’d soon be a fiance, and I simply didn’t know what I was doing with my life. I needed a job, and Bookmans hired me as a cashier. 

Bookmans was a local phenomenon in Tucson. It was a bookstore/music store/news stand/hangout. The wildest cast of characters shopped there. I sold a Sunday edition of Le Monde to Faye Dunaway’s driver and a rare edition of some title I can’t remember to Larry McMurtry. Barbara Kingsolver shopped every now and then. She was a terrible customer, so we all ducked when she came in the door. 

I worked my way up from cashier to bookbuyer. I was promoted to assistant manager. Eventually I got a few shifts in the rare book room. I loved it. I mean, I really loved it. I made the dearest of friends, met the most amazing people, and read every book I could consume. Had my new husband not moved us to St. Louis, I suspect I would have worked there for years to come.

The last time I was in Tucson, I decided to drive by the store for old times’ sake. It wasn’t there. There was just an empty lot and a Starbucks. It fell victim to a street widening project in the late 2010s.

It turns out that jobs come and go, even the good ones.

Over the last few weeks, I have found myself in multiple conversations with men and women who have lost their jobs or fear such a loss. The loss of a job is a terrifying limbo for most of us, wondering if we’ll be able to pay our bills and support our families. More than that, there’s a sense of shock and a questioning. Why is this happening? Could I–should I–have acted differently? Why did God let this happen?

The parable of the laborers in the vineyard (Matthew 20:1-16) is just that: a parable. Jesus told parables to make a point. A single point. It was John Chrysostom who wrote of parables, “wherefore neither is it right to inquire curiously into all things in parables word by word but when we have learned the object for which it was composed, to reap this and not to busy one’s self about anything further” (quoted in Frederick Dale Bruner, The Church: Matthew 13-28, Rev. and Expanded Edition, 318). In other words, keep it simple when interpreting parables and stick to the point. 

The point of the parable of the laborers in the vineyard is the sovereignty of God in dispensing God’s grace upon His people. Still, along the way, this parable draws the contours of a Christian understanding of work that could serve us well when the security of our jobs is in question.

The basic narrative of the parable is straightforward. A landowner goes out early in the morning to hire day laborers. He hires the first crew of workers for a denarius, which is generous pay for a day’s work. He goes out four more times throughout the day to hire more laborers, promising a fair wage each time. When it comes time to pay them, he gives them all the same wage. 

Not a preacher past or present hasn’t commented on how seemingly unjust the wage is for the day laborer hired at 5 p.m. Of course, the workers who’d been there all day grumbled! And, of course, the landowner defends his freedom to pay whatever he wants to pay. “Am I not allowed to do what I choose with what belongs to me? Or are you envious because I am generous?’ (Matthew 20:15).

Appropriately, the message is a simple one. God is free to lavish his grace–even salvation–on whomever he chooses. Comparing ourselves to the disciple down the pew does no good for anyone. Our only appropriate response is gratitude to the sovereign God who bestows it. John Chrysostom would be pleased.

Yet, the setting for this message too is significant. It’s about laborers who’ve come to the marketplace in search of work. We call it a job hunt for a reason. We are hunters, looking for the right work, the right pay, the right location, the right future. When we get the call back, when we pass the performance tests and hear, “You’re hired,” there’s relief and joy and hope. When the call doesn’t come back quickly or at all, though, when we’re waiting for the call, checking our email hourly, and wondering, there’s fear and worry and self-doubt. It was as true for those laborers as it is for us today.

The context of the parable speaks volumes about our relationship to our work. 

Work is a gift from God for the sake of His kingdom.

Work, paid and unpaid, like all of life, is a gift from God. The laborers in that vineyard worked the land, and the land provided for the community. The work that matters never ends with us. God gives us work to use our gifts, and the gifts bless others. “The Christian disciple is, by definition, called to be a Christian worker” (Bruner, 319). Even back when I was working the cash register at Bookmans, I used to say that the work I did that really mattered was work I’d do even if I wasn’t getting paid. Sure, I took the money and ran the credit cards because it was my job, but I would have helped the teenager find the book he needed for school or sold the auto repair manual to the single mom for free. I was serving them. That’s discipleship. 

We are called to work, not a job.

God provides work, but He doesn’t guarantee a particular job. Some of the laborers had a job for a day, others for an hour. There’s no mention of work the next day. Businesses, enterprises, and workplaces come and go. Some last longer than others, but none of them are permanent. “ And the world and its desire are passing away, but those who do the will of God abide forever” (1 John 2:17). Jobs go away, even dream jobs. New jobs emerge. If we’re doing the will of God by loving both Him and neighbor, it matters little where and how it’s happening.

I suppose that’s easier to say than to endure when a job ends unexpectedly and the new job hasn’t been found. When we’re wondering how to pay the mortgage. When the bills are overdue. When our sense of identity is uncertain. Here’s when the simple point–God’s sovereign grace–matters.

Finally, God provides extravagantly.

This is the promise that makes the call to work and the uncertainty of our jobs bearable. We can trust that God will provide for us, somehow, some way. We trust and He gives so His name can be praised.

In my first church where I served as an associate pastor, money was often thin. Several Decembers in a row, when the elders sat down to make a budget, my salary was a topic of debate. Reduce it? Eliminate it? Keep it and hope for the best? I spent the weeks of Advent wondering if I’d have a job in January, and I hated it. One day I complained to a friend about the lousy timing of my job uncertainty during the season of shopping. She sympathized but then commented that maybe December was the most appropriate time for such uncertainty. After all, she said, isn’t Advent all about hope and God’s love?

Fair enough. I didn’t stop complaining, mind you, but I did it with humility.

My friend’s observation is as true in Lent as it is in Advent and all year round. Work is a gift. Jobs come and go. God provides always. And He makes it all possible for the sake of hope and His love.

God, Hope, Spiritual gifts, Uncategorized, Work Tagged: Bookmans, Job Loss, Parable of the Laborers in the Vineyard, work


February 15, 2024 | Leave a Comment

Earworms and grace

I like to hike. About this time of year, just ahead of spring, I start to really miss it. I don’t get out often enough but, when I do, it heals my soul. 

Mostly.

You see, when I hike, I often (i.e. almost always) struggle with the chatter in my head. I can’t shut it off. And, when hiking, the problem specifically? Earworms. (In case you’re unfamiliar with the term)

For as long as I can remember, upon stepping foot on a trail, my mind finds a song that fits the rhythm of the walking. Within a few notes of hearing the song in my head, it’s all over. Adele. Coldplay. A praise song or two. Even the Backyardigans on one unfortunate outing. The song, the genre, doesn’t matter. The song is all I hear above the peace and quiet I go to the forest to find. Sometimes, the song fades. At other times, it does not. I just keep walking.

Of course, these hikes aren’t the only time my brain chatter drones on. When it’s early in the morning and I have my Bible in hand, the chatter in my brain is incessant. The weather. The scores from last nights’ game. Emai! I must have some new email that must be read at this very moment! 

I stop, I redirect, and return to prayer and the Word, only to hear the chatter again within moments. Too often. Ugh.

But I have calmed and quieted myself,                                                                                                              I am like a weaned child with its mother;                                                                                                    like a weaned child I am content. (Psalm 131:2)

Calmed and quieted? Ha! Psalm 131 mocks me, yes, but it also encourages me.

After all, Psalm 131 is a song of ascents. It says so right there in the superscription, “A song of ascents. Of David.” These songs of ascent (Psalms 120-134) were more than likely sung or said or prayed (or all of the above) by pilgrims headed to Jerusalem for one of its three annual festivals. Jerusalem was on a hill, after all, so the pilgrims had to ascend–climb–to get there. 

In other words, they were hiking.

More than that, they were surrounded by fellow pilgrims and travelers. It could be quite a crowd. Remember Jesus’ parents on their way back from Jerusalem after the Festival of Passover, in a crowd so large that they lost their son for a whole day (Luke 2:44)?  That had to be a whole lot of noise, inside and out.

Calm and quiet? These are not words we ought to associate with a bunch of pilgrim-hikers, in a crowd, headed to Jerusalem. 

These words don’t describe how the pilgrims wanted to be or how they should have been. These words, “calm and quiet,” described how they were. They were calm, literally “level,” as if the rough places in their minds and souls had been smoothed over, They’d been quieted–made silent–in themselves. 

I’ve gone online to try to find remedies for the brain chatter. Lots of psychology, self-help gurus prescribe solutions to the problem, but I prefer what Psalm 131 has to offer. 

Psalm 131’s sort of calm and quiet don’t come by way of special meditation practice or cognitive behavioral therapy or any other human tactic. Their calm and quiet come from trusting in God, only God, in the moment, with every footfall, every step.

After all, the short psalm concludes

Israel, put your hope in the Lord                                                                                                                  both now and forevermore. (Psalm 131:3)

There’s some irony in the fact that I’m struggling to quiet my brain chatter even now as I write this post. The chatter goes on. But, gratefully, the promise of God stretches farther. There’s hope. All I have to do is lean in, keep walking, and keep turning my attention back, however many times it takes, to the Lord. 

That’s our hope. Now and forevermore.

Hope Tagged: earworms, hiking, silence, trust


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